I once worked out so intensely that I nearly vomited and passed out. I brag about it as often as I can without seeming too weird. When I enter the weight room at the gym and find that I’m the only woman there, I add five extra pounds to my weight setting. In fitness, and in life, I’m a competitor and an achiever. I tend to see most things in life as mountains to be mastered.
Last year I met the beautiful challenge of growing an entire person inside my womb—and then ushering said person into the outside world. A lot of what I knew about life changed. Pregnancy is not a game you can win or a hurdle you can soar over in a single bound. Growing a person takes as long as it takes, and there’s nothing you can do about it. Labor and delivery unfolds the way it is meant to unfold and your body doesn't stop and ask your permission. Even if you “do everything right,” things don’t always pan out the way you’d hoped and planned. Sometimes you find yourself in the surgery ward awaiting a c-section after 24+ hours of laboring unmedicated. You cannot control the process, only your response.
I now know that not everything in life needs to be conquered. Some situations, some seasons, require you to just be. It is in surrendering to the discomfort, the uncertainty, and the lack of control that you achieve victory. And sometimes victory doesn’t mean getting to the finish line first. Sometimes victory just means surviving—getting to the other side of the mountain with some portion of sanity.
So legends, I’m going to ask you to do something that’s probably the exact opposite of what you’re expecting this time of year—stop kicking and float. Ask yourself if this is one of those seasons in life where you can’t afford to hustle or grind or kick butt. It takes wisdom to recognize when its time to stop fighting and surrender—and it takes courage to actually do it. Dare to be the courageous one. Don’t be that person at the gym who passes out because you didn’t know when enough was enough.
Here are 5 questions to ask yourself right now:
What does victory look like for me in my current situation?
Is my current approach to challenges helpful or harmful?
What adjustment(s) could I make this week that would benefit me?
What is the most important thing I need to give myself permission to release so that I can preserve my own sanity?
What do I stand to lose if I insist on trying to master and manage that which is beyond my control?